Strawberry Banana Yogurt Pops

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Strawberry Banana Yogurt Pops
(73cal. 2g protein. 13carbs.)

This makes 16 servings.

2Lb. Strawberries
2 Large Ripe Bananas
2 Cups Vanilla Greek Yogurt

Blend together until smooth, distribute, and freeze.

Freezing can take 12-16 hours.

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Just Rest

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Hang up your hammock.  Pull up your chair.  Lay flat in the grass and take in the view from above.  It is time to rest.

Rest.

I believe the burning question on many minds these days is:
“How do I rest in the midst of my chaos?”

You may not like to hear this, but chaos has been around since, well, the beginning of time itself.  It was chaos that brought forth our existence into play.  It was chaos that has always taken humanity from point A to point B.  With out chaos there would be complacency.  When we’re complacent there is no need to grow, stretch, and change.  A little bit of chaos does us all good.  You can see it actively working wonderful deeds within nature.  Chaos takes one tiny little thing and throws it out of its content position thus causing enormous change to occur.  Often, this is for the better even if we can’t see the silver lining in the clouds right away.  A little bit of patience goes a long way when we’re dealing with chaos.

Okay, I get it, not all chaos is the same.  Well, you’re right there.  Not all chaos is great or good for us.  I’ll concede that not all chaos comes in the same shape or form as another.  Some times the chaos we receive requires a little bit more from us than we expect.  It is in these times, when we feel like we can’t, that we need to find rest.  We must, at all costs, find refuge in our storms.  Shelter amidst the downpours.  A safe haven when the volcano of life erupts in our face.  Where do we run to?  Is there somewhere to turn?  How do I even take that step to find my safe place?

Step one.  Well, that sounds all kinds of official, doesn’t it?  Where do we begin…  Acceptance.  We must, at all costs, accept that whatever is going wrong in our chaos is actually happening.  It is big.  It is ugly.  We don’t like it.  However, it is very real.

Step Two.  See, I’m getting the hang of this official sounding business aren’t I?  One person’s chaos isn’t the same as another’s.  We need to pull ourselves away from comparing what we’re dealing with to others.  Each individual has gone through a series of chaotic events in their life that has shaped and molded them into the person that they are.  I’d like to say no one is the same, but I’m sure there is likely one or two other individuals out there that can totally relate to you.  None the less, it is very unlikely that you’re going to encounter that person by accident.  So, what is my point?  The only person that you can compare yourself to is the one staring back at you in the mirror.  *GASPS*  Whaaaaaaaaaat?!  Yeap.  Self reflection is the only business you have when it comes to comparison.

Step three.  Oh boy, this is starting to sound like a list.  We’ve accepted our chaos as reality, we’re not looking at other’s to gauge our validity of considering our situation chaos at all, and we’re moving forward towards finding our place of rest.  Stop.  Close your eyes.  Take a really deep breath and hold it.  Hold it.  Hooooold it.  Slowly let it go.  Do you feel that?  A teeny tiny little bit of tension released.  Do it again, if you need to.  Do it a third time.  A fourth, fifth, sixth.  Do it as many times as you need until you’re ready to continue.  No, you can’t skip this one.

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Step four.  Forget about considering these steps and turn this into your reality.  Don’t concern yourself with getting it right.  Don’t bother with making sure you’ve done it all in perfect order.  Make this your own.  This is your chaos and your shelter, no one else’s.

Did I say five?  Your shelter is deep within.  It is a place that you can retreat to in your mind.  A place to lay your head and rest.  I’m not talking about physical rest here.  I’m writing about finding your inner peace and solitude.  The ability to be alone in a crowd of people.  You must be comfortable in your own skin.  Self acceptance is a huge key.  When you don’t care about what other people think about you then your shelter will be made known.  You’ll still be frustrated.  You will likely shed tears.  Things wont suddenly be fixed.  You will just be able to handle them better.  This is just the beginning.  The short of a long road of un-training your mind and setting it free of society’s labels and bad habits of self degradation.  It all starts with how you see yourself and where you want yourself to go.

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The Sedentary Momma

Challenge Accepted; Shoot For The Stars!

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That is what they say, isn’t it?  Shoot for the stars…  The world is your oyster…  You can do whatever you set your mind to…  Well, I hate sea food and I tend to enjoy my feet planted firmly on the ground.  However, I do believe in part of getting to your goals when you set your mind to them.  We may not always get to where we want to be or use the path we chose to take, but the important thing is setting our minds to it and pushing forward.  It isn’t about the falling down bit.  It is about how we get back up and keep going.

Last week I wasn’t home.  It was a bit crazy, but in an extremely good way.  You know, when nothing goes at all like you planned, but everything worked out great anyway, kind of week.  It was fully of laughter, fun, amazing company, fabulous conversations, delicious (my diet friendly!) foods, and love.  I can’t thank my friends enough for such a wonderful and relaxing time we all had away.

In summery I moved in ways I didn’t even realize I could, so I got plenty of different exercise despite not having my normal routine.  I also discovered when I’m out of AC I put on 3lbs of water weight that is only humidity and temperature related.  I also learned that I fidget with my rings when I’ve lost that 3lbs of water weight a little too much.  I found out that I greatly enjoy playing kick the soccer ball back and forth with kids and that it makes me super sore the next day.  One last discovery I had was we all need extra love some times.  Usually, when we don’t think that we do.

Well, here it is.  My challenge!  I’ve been requested to do 5 miles a day extra.  Monday-Sunday.  5 extra miles!  I’m sweating just sitting here thinking about it.  It won’t be easy at all.  Believe it or not this momma is super busy from the time I rise until I lay my head back down.  It doesn’t even matter if I don’t plan to be.  I always end up busy anyway.  On top of trying to work that in I’m actually busy with real busyness this week.  There is VBS all week so my morning is fairly shot with that.  I actually look forward to the challenge and sharing next Monday how it went!  I do have to officially track my miles and submit them.  *GASP*  No fudging here.  😉

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Roasted Parmesan Cauliflower & Red Potatoes

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Roasted Parmesan Cauliflower & Red Potatoes
(282cal. 22g protein. 33carbs.)
Makes 8 servings

3lb Bag Red Potatoes – Chopped
1 Medium Head of Cauliflower – Chopped Into Florets
2oz Hard Parmesan – Grated
1/4 Cup Oil (50/50 Avocado and grape seed is my choice)
1/2 Teaspoon Sea salt (or to taste)
1 Teaspoon Black Pepper (or to taste)

*Preheat oven at 375*F
*Line a baking sheet with parchment paper.
*Add potatoes, cauliflower, and oil into a container and mix.
*Spread evenly onto the parchment paper in your pan.
*Sprinkle your salt and pepper on top.
*Add your Parmesan cheese evenly.
*Cook for 30-45m until the potatoes fork soft.

It Isn’t Always Sunflowers & Blue Skies

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Some times when you’re in the middle of making lemonade someone runs up, grabs one of your lemons, and squeezes it into your eyes.  Let me tell you, it stings like nothing else you’ve ever experienced.  Likely that will never happen literally, but it sure does happen figuratively more often than not.  If it happened literally I personally would question that friendship greatly.

Life often tosses out the proverbial lemon into our lap.  Something goes wrong.  A wrench falls into our gears and messes everything up.  What is it that we’re told to do with a bad situation that arises?  Make lemonade!  We’re supposed to pull up our big people pants nice and tight and if need be tighten our belts to make sure that they stay up and move forward anyway.  We’re told to look on the bright side.  Find the sunshine in the rain clouds.  Dump a half a pound of sugar into that lemon juice and drink it up with a smile.

What happens when in the midst of attempting to look on the bright side of things something else goes horribly wrong?  You’re car broke down on the way to work and its going to cost you $90/hr for the tow truck.  Then you have to rent a car for another $120/day.  On top of that you’re missing several hours of work for which you get paid, we’ll say, 15/hr.  Not only have you already spent far more unexpectedly on just getting your car to the shop, a rental, and then the repairs, but you would not have even made enough to cover it in the time you missed from your job.  You make it to work and despite the problems you’ve faced in the morning your boss is displeased with you.  Your co-workers follow suit.  You sit at your desk and just wish you had one of those sneaky flasks hidden somewhere that you could slip into your pocket and go hide in the bathroom stall for a few moments.  It has been a bad day.  You’re trying to keep it positive.  You remind yourself that it will be okay.  You can get through it.  You’re happy no one got hurt and you’ll figure out how to make the boss happy again.  You drive home and find someone has broken into your house while you were gone, because you were late leaving for work in the first place and you forgot to lock the doors.  Not only did they steal everything that actually had monetary value, they also broke much of what they left behind in their hurry.  Your nerves already shot from the day that you’ve already had you shake as you reach for you phone to attempt to call 911.  Ring, ring…they answer.  “911, what is your emergency?” a calm voice attempts to reassure you while getting directly to the point.  Shaking you try to answer, but drop the phone.  It shatters.  The 911 operator immediately pulls up the GPS from your cellphone and sends hoards of help to your last known coordinates.  Devastated.  Embarrassed.  Completely broken down, you sit on the curb in tears.  Your bad day just got so much worse.  You’ve spent the day trying your hardest to stay positive, but the phone?  The phone was your last straw.  You’re done.

We’ve all had days where we can relate to the feeling this fictitious person has had.  We know what it is like to get to our end and have no more left.  To reach the point where there is no such thing as keep pushing.  Where someone squeezes our lemons into our eyes and then for good measure rubs some salt in there too.  It may not look like this person’s bad day, but we all have our end point and our own stories.  What is a person to do when they reach here?  I can attest I’ve reached here many times.  In fact more times than I can possibly count.  I love my life.  I love my children.  However, thing go bad and often compound on each other.  When it rains it pours.

Negativity wants to breed more negativity.  It seeks for attention in every place that it can find.  It sneaks into your mind and unwittingly we allow it to curl right out on our internal sofa and stay for the night.  Slowly it widdles away at our self-confidence and our attitude.  It shifts our focus off of good things and benefiting others to ourselves.  It constantly reminds us of our failures and our short comings.  It wants to claw at our very being until there is nothing left of us.  It will beat us down until we can’t get back up again.  Then when we’re in complete and utter despair it starts to latch onto others around us and drag them right down too.  It becomes like an ivy enveloping everything it touches growing with out restraint.  Misery loves company and that is the truth.  When we’re in a bad place we often don’t feel any better unless we have someone else right along beside us suffering too.  We are feeding our own negativity through their problems.

In thought staying positive is easy.  One could take the advice of popular Disney character Dory and “just keep swimming” but what does that even look like in practice?  I’m sorry, but what I’m going to tell you isn’t going to be easy, at least at first.  If you’re used to being less than positive in most situations and seeking out others to help make you feel better in habit than you’re in for a rough ride.  Oh yeah, you read that correctly.  Seeking others to help you feel better is part of feeding into the negativity.  Some times it is very helpful to be able to just tell another person what is going through our minds and ask for advice.  It becomes a completely new animal when we start to tell 3, 4, 5, the entire world of social media, how bad things are.  At that point, we’re just seeking for someone else to come lick our wounds.  You can go ahead and take the dagger out of your back, I don’t mean to offend and I’m guilty of it too.  There are plenty of times when I’ve rushed to facebook in the past to tell the entire world about what bad thing was happening only seeking people’s attention and pity.  I wanted them on my side.  I wanted to feel empowered and important.  The problem with that is I was placing my value in the hands of social media readers.  I became obsessed with how many people liked my messages.  I was concerned with who sent me personal messages and who didn’t.  I started to form grudges against people who didn’t respond to my whines in the way that I thought they should.  I was feeding the negativity inside.  It had moved off of my internal sofa and taken up residence in a spare bedroom.  It was using my tooth brush and barging in while I was using the bathroom.  It left its dirty dishes all over the house and never closed the front door when the air was on.  You get the picture, right?  It took over.  It doesn’t happen over night, but slowly works its way in one luggage bag at a time.

First of all, consider this thought.  Was what is happening an accident and could it have been prevented by you?  If it was an accident and out of your control then it makes the next part a little easier.  If it was something you could have prevented consciously with out serious double guessing of your choices then it is important to step back and make a note of that for the future.  Not everything is our fault, but when it is we need to own it.  Acceptance of responsibility is the first step to beating negativity.  You’re putting it back into its place beneath you.

Don’t allow owning any mistakes on your part become your new identity.  You are not your mistakes.  You are not the bad situations in your life.  You are capable of overcoming hardship and moving forward.  You are not tied to them.  You can do and be better than the issues that are in front of you.

Have you learned everything that you can in this moment from what has been and is going on?  Can you actively apply what you’ve learned to your future?  Can you consider any possible way that you may not be able to overcome what is happening on your own and might need outside perspectives and encouragement?  If you think you do then I certainly suggest finding a trusted friend who is going to be completely open and honest with you.  Someone who is unafraid to tell you the truth and still love you anyway.  Someone who you can hear the hard stuff from and keep listening.  If a friend isn’t a possibility seeing a professional counselor might be the best route.  They may be able to help you discover things about yourself you’d never seen before and help you apply them to your life.

Positivity, just like negativity, needs cultivating.  It is a bit hard to till the soil and plant seeds of a positive way of thinking than it is to grow vines.  Vines don’t need tending.  They latch on and suck up whatever is around them with out much conscious influence.  Positivity is much more like growing a vegetable garden in the back yard.  You have to actively attend the weeds, water it, and shelter the plants from harsh weather.  Just like a vegetable garden the more work you put into being positive the better the fruit will be when picked.  One method I like to use is placing encouragement notes around my house.  Whatever it is I’m dealing with at the time is directly related to what I’m putting in front of my face.

When my husband dropped the bombshell that he was leaving me in the fall of 2015 I ran to one very specific quote.  “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord.  Plans to prosper you, and not to harm you.  Plans for a hope and a future.” which is found within Jeremiah 29:11 from the Bible.  Understanding the character of the Lord I knew His will is always for the better.  His desire is always for good.  With out getting into too much theology here it is our own free will and choices that causes certain and specific negative things to happen in life.  Even a none Bible reading and none God believing individual would agree that holding onto a hope for the future is the best next step.  So, get posting.  If you can’t even bring yourself to think of positive quotes google is a fantastic search engine and you will find a great many good words to live by in your daily walk.  Put them everywhere!  Print them out and frame them on your walls.  Post them inside of cabinets.  Use glow in the dark paint and stencil them to your ceiling so at night when you sleep you can still see them.  Sew them onto towels.  Design it so that in every room no matter where you’re standing you will see something that is going to inspire you to be an over comer.  That is what you are after all, an over comer.  So, start overcoming and get posting.

Surround yourself with joyful things.  Watch silly movies or tv shows.  Listen to clean comedy – you don’t want to really get in the habit of laughing at someone else’s misfortune, that only leads down another road.  Do things that make you smile.  Take walks.  Smell the flowers.  Star gaze.  Sit by a water fall.  Listen to rain.  Remove negative music from ear shot.  Believe it or not, a good portion of the music that is listened to is not positive at all.  There are far too many musical numbers out there focusing on how bad life can be and how sad the singer is.  Pay attention to the words and sort it out.  Have fun!  Do whatever it is that you need to do to force yourself out of the funky funk funk and move forward.

Remove yourself from negative people.  We all have them in our lives.  People who tend to look on the darker side of situations.  As someone starting to change your perspective it is important to also try to surround yourself with others who are positive too.  I’m not asking you to no longer be friends with those who tend to be on the more negative side, just limit your time with them.  You can use your time with them to even notice the changes that are happening in yourself and possibly help them become more positive too.  Don’t become too noble, though.  You don’t want to burn yourself out trying to help someone else out who isn’t quite ready.

One of the biggest keys to becoming more positive and staying that way even when really bad stuff compounds on top of each other is to make sure your reasons are sound.  It is great to say “Oh yeah, I’m doing this for my kids.”  or  “I really just want to show my boss and co-workers I can be better and deserve to move up the ladder.”  or  “I want others to be proud of me.” and they’re all something to consider.  However, the main reason you want to become a more positive person should be for you.  If needs to be, because you want it for you.  There is no greater motivator than doing it for yourself.  At the end of the day being a role model for your kids, a driving force in your work place, or even an example to those around you does not make the cut.  They’re not there when you’re alone.  You are.  They don’t feel what you do.  They don’t experience the same things that you do.  They’re not inside of your mind listening to your thoughts.  They do not know exactly how easy or hard something is for you.  Only you do.  Only you can fully relate to you.  Only you can make the choice to push forward.  It has to come from you.

When I started my journey of life changes, both ones chosen for me and ones I decided to take the mantle of, I wasn’t doing it for me.  I wanted to make my children proud.  I wanted my family to see me rising from the ashes like a phoenix.  Hey, you know what?  It worked for a little while.  My mind and heart were already so numb that I could mold it into whatever I wanted it to be at the time.  After a little while, though, my senses came back.  I suddenly didn’t care what I did when I wasn’t being watched.  I got back into a lot of bad old habits.  I even noticed I was slipping back away again and I didn’t care enough to stop.  As long as I was “that person” when others saw me that is all that mattered to me.  I was living a lie.  I became depressed.  You’d never guess it on the outside, but my inward struggle was real.  I realized one night, sitting in my bed, 4am on the clock, it wasn’t working.  It wasn’t enough.  Living for others?  It was never meant to be that way.  Placing my value in how other people saw my actions was a fallacy.  One that I could no longer keep up with.  I was faced with a choice.  Do I keep trudging through the muck with my happy face on, or do I accept joy and change my perspective and motivations.

Considering that you’re reading this right now I hope that you’d suspect that I went for the joy.  It is obviously clear that I did.  Joy is that everlasting inward feeling of peace when things are not going well.  Joy is constant.  To be happy is fleeting and outward.  Happy is on the surface, but joy comes from deep within.  It is the living water to your positive veggie garden and bares the most succulent fruit at harvest.  My joy is directly related to my belief in the one true God.  My author and creator.  My comfort and sustainer.  My joy is found in His unconditional love alone.  My faith is placed in His unwavering character.  He is the only constant in this tremulous world.  I can’t say where you find your joy.  I know I’ve never been let down from where I’ve found mine.

…and as always, thanks for dropping by and taking a read! If you like what you’ve seen don’t forget to visit, like, follow, and share The Sedentary Momma on Facebook, Twitter, Pintrest, & here on WordPress!

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The Sedentary Momma

Lets Keep This Brief

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We had an exciting week this past.  An ER visit for my 7yr old – which praise the Lord wasn’t really serious, just slightly beyond what I could remedy at home.  I ended up flaring up with whatever “reaction” that was happening with me yet again.  So I drug myself, kicking and screaming, to the Dr.  who let me know I’ve apparently just been secretly sick for several weeks with a virus that isn’t contagious.  It has been presenting itself in reaction to certain foods as hundreds to thousands of micro ulcers in my mouth that flare up.  This has led me to not be able to stick to my preferred dietary habits and I’ve been far more tired than usual so I’ve not been able to get the exercise I’ve planned on.  I even had to skip out on my half marathon over the weekend.  My orders are to drink way more water than I already do, which I’m not sure is even possible, rest as much as I can, and take lysine drops 6 times a day until it heals up.

Despite the set backs in health and craziness this week I did manage to still drop down a single pound.  Will it stay that way and keep going?  I’m not sure.  I couldn’t be in another stall, or it could just be my health situation.  Only time and diligence will tell.

This coming week I’m pleased to be away on what is vacation to me with friends in the mountains.  I leave behind the stress of every day life and the others who will still be upon our return.  I can’t say for sure what we’ll be doing, but whatever it is, I’ll be relaxing.  I hope to be able to maintain a good diet over the week and get some exercise in when I can.  However, this week is more about my mental health and my state of mind than anything else!  I look forward to the break.  🙂

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The Sedentary Momma